Why Are the Teen Years so HARD on Moms?

In this little video I’m talking about why the teen years are so hard for moms and some advice to make these years easier on you.

As moms, we sacrifice so much for our kids. Then they hit their teens, and they begin to pull away. It is common for moms to struggle, and I have some tips on making these years more joyful.

First, you must understand that it’s not your kids’ job to make you happy. Notwithstanding your sacrifices, your kids’ teen years are very self-focused. It’s normal and it is essential to them creating their own identities. So, how do you cope?

You must realized that no one can make you unhappy without your permission. Likewise, no one can make you happy unless you choose to create happiness in your life. This is my challenge to you today.

  1. Decide that you are completely responsible for your own happiness.
  2. Stop and think about what makes you happy. If you don’t know, spend some time finding out.
  3. Inject FUN into your life. Do something just because it brings you joy.

Once you take complete responsibility for your own happiness, you move into an empowered place. When you live from that empowered place, your daughter sees what that looks like and learns from your example that SHE is also in control of her own happiness, not that boy, not that grade, not that school, and certainly not you. You are not responsible to make your teen happy.

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Michelle

Are your problems just beginning?

Today I’m talking about how to begin early preventing risky behaviors in your teens. Click to watch.

Note: The sound and picture are misaligned. My apologies.

A couple of important take-aways:

  1. Teens see themselves as adults, so “what is okay for you is okay for me” in their minds.
  2. Teens will model your behavior–good and bad.
  3. The Law of Magnification- Teens lack the ability to regulate behaviors, so think of them taking your bad habit and 10x it.

Raising a strong, healthy teen starts with you. It’s never too late to set a goal, give up a bad habit or begin a good habit. I know you can do it. You may need support.

If you want 1:1 help dealing with a particular issue with your teen, you can get a complementary coaching session from me. Click here to sign up.